If you want my opinion your H needs serious family therapy before he's NOT a danger to you or any other woman..he's a walking time bomb of impulses that he celebrates rather than controls...
I would stick to the protection phase, you do NOT need to file.. you just need to let GO of the OLD marriage and your OLD husband... Find a good family therapist to help you work through the detachment until you get to a place where you can OBJECTIVELY decide if you want him to explore FT with you...
He is NOT in an emotional maturity level where he CAN come back to you... he MAY be stable enoguh to work with a family therapist... SKIP that part and you are just asking to get used AGAIN...
I don't reccomend ANYONE file for divorce because they aer miserable... It does NOT make you feel any better, its just a piece of paper... Way too many people are fooled into thinking all that pain will dissappear when they file.. it DOESN'T...
Find a family therapist and work with them for YOU... so YOU are strong enough to cut him lose or invite him to FT.. you are NOT in a place where you can combat his behaviour on your own and HE is NOT in a position where he can control his impulses...
