Would it be considered setting appropriate "boundaries" for me to tell the WAW that she needs to stop bringing her new man to things like OUR DD's counseling sessions, OUR kids Bday parties, etc ??
She needs the emotional security. Better for you to act like it doesn't bother you. This will be attractive.
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It REALLY pissed me off, the way she is throwing him in my face every chance she gets, although I didnt let on that it was.
Don't fool yourself. She saw it and it validated her feelings about you.
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Like I said, Im getting REALLY sick and tired of his constant presence and feel like I have the right to say as much, the flip side is I dont want her to know that he's getting to me with his presence either.
See you do get it. The boundary with the OM would have to be about unacceptable behavior, is him driving her to the counseling session really unacceptable?
Start smiling and saying Hi to every woman you meet, make eye contact and make them smile. High Five somebody today. Compliment the waitress or the girl behind the counter. Tell a woman she has nice eyes or smile or you like her hair or earrings. Go take a watermelon to a family for the 4th. Doing something nice for someone else will help you get out of your mental cycle. Try it and let us know how it works. I promise you will feel better.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
