How to tell the kids

[dday101798]

1 - No. Let her get the taste of life without you she says so yearns for.

2 - What about it? Can you control what your W does? Can you control what your sister does? No. So why look like a control freak in trying to do so? Hell, use the situation to your advantage. When your sis asks you how you're doing, let her know you're doing GREAT. When she asks about the situation, simply say it's not worth discussing and then say you have to go do something, MUCH LIKE YOU WOULD TO YOUR W. This will in turn get back to your W via your sis who will also be questioning what you're up to, why you're so upbeat and busy.

Last, for the record, cake eating is when the WAS gets the bulk of what they want from OP and comes back to you for what they are not.