Thank you Hope! smile

That is great advice. I have started a list of my "next steps".... what needs to happen... first, when he gets home and next, after separation as that looks most likely.

I like the idea your lawyer gave you. I will have to look at it from the perspective of the last year. If I did it from the past twenty years there were so many positives, it might just make me sad. frown I think that is the hardest part. The man I loved all these years no longer exists. He was a good man. But, that is not my problem. I am taking care of me and my kids.