I agree with Al and John and the rest. And quite frankly, it's not so much anymore about what Dan is doing to you. You are just stuck sweets. Stuck expecting him to validate your feelings about how wrong he was and how much hurt he has caused. You are expecting him to treat you the way he has prooven he doesnt want or doesnt know how to... He says he is sorry and you go "if you are, then why dont you... ", getting even more frustrated. No, he can be sorry, he can have regrets without wanting to change anything. It happens.
I think all these years we've "known" each other, you are replaying the same questions in your head, never getting answers, getting stuck. Break the cycle and move forward. For your peace of mind. Hugs
