I noticed that I needed to detach more when I had interaction, no matter how small, and I felt bad afterwards, or that I didn't get a response, or one that I was looking for. - TRUEGRITTER

Amen. The one time I talked to my WH over the last 2 months, I spent the rest of the weekend huddled in bed under the covers. For me, dark is definitely better.

Empathy? I do feel sorry for my Wh in that he is giving up everything he claimed to be working for towards his looming retirement from the Military.

Infant stage? I'm afraid so. Everyone is different, and so is their timelines, but best to prepare yourself for the long haul. I have insofar as my emotional state. Financially, I may move slightly ahead to protect myself.

ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011