Hello. Can others suggest to me a way to "not" invite my H to a family function without appearing to be "mean spirited". My reasoning is that he continues to have secrets (I don't know what they are), I'm preparing to disclose to my family after this event, and don't see a need for us to spend time with our families as if things are ok, when he's not in counseling or working on our M.

THANK YOU

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years