There is no other choice that can be made that is consistent with who I say I am and that is the predicament.
Why must "who you are" be static? Should you really hold on to the arbitrary expectations you place on yourself at 20, when you're 40, just ..... just because? Why?
Surely as we mature, and learn to reflect on ourselves and our lives we have the opportunity, some would say an obligation, to be flexible enough to change ourselves when it's necessary for our continued growth.
Is it possible, that you promised your current wife you wouldn’t threaten to leave because at that time the wounds from your first marriage were pretty raw and perhaps you were overly empathetic to how it would feel to her if you left her? Is it possible, that the man you are now might not have made that commitment?
I get the promise thing. I do. I get that your word is fundamental to who you are. I guess in every other area of your life, every day, every interaction you honour those values. Does breaking one commitment, when all your others are in tact, detract from who you are? Sometimes the exception proves the rule.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
