My H is already having a low moment tonight and he's not even aware of work exposure yet. He did his first pick dd up for a visit (in the genre of divorced dad). Dropped her off and wanted to know if he could come in and help put her to bed. I said, "no thanks, I got it." Was cordial and polite to him but made not attempt to have extended convo with him. Told him, "I'm planning that you'll pick her up Sat AM" given our previous agreement - he said "Are you leaving?" and I said "not sure." Wanted to know if he could have dd here. Simply said no. He texted a few mins ago to know if I could have dd call him to say good night. She was already asleep. He's prob crying in his car somewhere over the mess he's made - which as sorry as I am that it had to come to this, I see it as a sign that the bottom is coming.
My mom is coming into town on Sunday to help me hold down the fort. H is taking a whole week off and wanted to have dd in our house (with me gone) whole week. Of course legally he could refuse to leave house but having my mom here for 3 days would make it really uncomfortable for him.
He just texted me and asked for me to put together a spreadsheet of all our $$ tonight - I didn't respond. Of course he has no where to take dd and is trying to wrack his brain about what to do. Not sure what to do with this. I think it falls under the legal/finanical bullet listed above. We don't have lawyers in the picture yet - not sure if I should invoke them at this point (of course I've consulted with one but don't think H knows that).
GAL update: I hung out with a neighbor friend while dd was with H tonight. Planning to go out dancing with another friend Saturday. Just need plans for Friday because darn it, that's our wedding anniversary and if I sit at home then I'm lame. I will have dd so maybe I will figure out something to do with her.
