180 tonight - and yes, it was for ME this time - I have fabulous news. My H has started going back to his place after putting S5 to bed. Any of you who have followed my sitch know that H spends the night here 2-3 nights per week during "his time" with S, and S goes one night per week to his apt.
Months ago, H angrily insisted that if S was to be in this house on his time and not coming to his place 50%, then I should go away overnight. Then for some months, he would stay here on his nights, but we'd sleep in separate rooms sometimes we were tense, sometimes, getting along. Finally this week he has started going back to his apt and I said is this going to be the routine now and he said unless I'm out late and he needs to stay here, yes.
HEre's the awesome part - I think she must have expected me to be upset, as months ago I would have, seeing this as him slipping away, and me feeling rejected. Now that I'm looking hard at my divorce options and feeling good about my independence, I just said, "Ok, cool. Bye." I was really proud of myself for not getting emotional or showing any signs of loss. I'm going to look at this at my time now to work on my own stuff, on myself, and enjoy me time. That's a big step for me.
