What to Do Next

[loweinsd51]

Had to go to an HOA Board meeting(I'm on the board) and told WW that I would have to explain our current situation as I'm staying with family and not at the house. So I make DD a salmon burger and I turn away and DD asks who took a bite out of her salmon burger. WW responds with "I did because Dad didn't make me one" To which I looked at WW and replied "If you wanted me to make you one, all you had to do was ask"

A few minutes later:
WW: What are you going to tell the board?
M: I'm going to explain our situation
WW: Even if that means negatively affecting DD's
M: It's your mess, you are going to have to clean it up
WW: This will affect DD's and their friends...we'll probably have to move from this community
M: You own any negative consequences
Then I walked out of the room.

WW asked me earlier if I would clean up the dog poop I originally said yes...I had to go back in the room to get something

WW: Can you clean up the poop before you back tonight?
M: If it's not dark
WW: Their your animals to
M: You're the one who wanted this arrangement so you will have to live with the consequences.

After the board meeting I noticed some things that I gathered were outside the garage.

M: Why is all the stuff in the driveway
WW: I needed to close the garage door and your being a jerk
M: Real mature
DD had a question so I had to walk out and WW said something.

PDT - Probably should have stopped there but...

Get out your 2 x 4's:

I went back in the room and said "I'm no longer going to clean up your mess...at some point in your life you are going to have to grow up, accept responsibility, stop blame shifting and stop playing the victim" and I walked out of the room.

To which WW replied "oh yeah I'm the immature one"...I continued walking and didn't respond to that comment. All of my responses were in a calm collected tone...never once raising my voice.