So today I kind of got past the latest shock of the trip to Europe with OW and then he emails me asking me if I would answer his business line while he is on "vacation"....
Unbelievable. It's understandable that this recent chain of events might make you wobble a bit. I am so sorry Mila. I have to say that my XH hasn't come close to doing any of this kind of stuff to me.
My take on this most recent request by H is to treat it like a boundary issue from a business partner. Would this type of behavior (i.e. not pulling his share of the load) elicit a discussion with a business partner who is not your H? It would seem very reasonable to do so. Maybe thinking of it this way will help you to regain your composure. You are a class act, Mila. I know that you can do this.
It is not fair, but it seems as though you are having to lead in your relationship with H right now. By that I mean you are having to be the "bigger" person.....the mature person. If you set a calm tone with H (I know it's difficult), you can keep this situation from escalating out of control. This demeanor will help you to get you the best outcome possible from this situation for you and your daughter, regardless of what that is.
It's understandable that this recent chain of events might make you wobble a bit. I am so sorry Mila. I have to say that my XH hasn't come close to doing any of this kind of stuff to me. 
