Twink wrote this in another thread: I have found that the more I seek to empathize with what my MLC H might be going through, the more compassion and forgiveness I can find.
This struck me because these are the feelings I have been having. He is really struggling and I am trying to stay calm and not engage him in R discussions. His logistics are proving to be more difficult than he imagined. Not difficult enough however to give a second thought to returning - but difficult.
His personality has changed so much - he texted D's and asked if they could help find a way to get our S into a comedy club that is 18 years and older (our S is 16) - WTH???????? The girls contact me and are outraged.
He called me this evening because D's didn't want to do anything with him this weekend. I didn't say anything.
He talked about some more business details. Then he was silent. He asked me what was wrong - I said "I know that you don't feel as if you love me - or that you may never have loved me - but I just feel as if there are so many more productive things we could be working on right that could improve our situation. If only you would be open to trying..." I didn't stick around for an answer - just told him I would talk to him when the girls arrived home.
Don't know why I'm putting this out there - just venting!
