Gucci, What is the status of your sitch? reconciled or divorced if you don't mind me asking.
Very happily married with grown children now asking for relationship advice from "old dad"....
Relationships have been something I have been interested in for as long as I can remember. I consider it the same as a hobby. My wife reads on here with me quite often. I have studied and studied and observed this question for as long as I can remember.. "What happens and what did the betrayed person DO that helped to bring about reconciliation. I have done spreadsheets on these things. Who came on as a BS. What route they took. When they reconciled or if the reconciled what were the dynamics. I have a few male friends that have also been very successful in the woman dept. They have almost all said the exact same things I believe.. They found in their lives that chasing a woman who says she doesn't want you is a big waste of time and never worked for them either. They also discovered that when they let the woman go and moved on withouth them, that most times the woman wanted to come back. Also that going on and finding another woman they were interested in worked very well.... (I found this true als.) (I call this the jealousy factor.)
I still see these same patterns today. Even on this site. It has made my beliefs even stronger on what works and what doesn't. Matter of fact, your own situation is proving my beliefs yet again. You are just another person that is showing me what doe NOT work.
In my personal life I started getting people asking me for advice. (you think YOU have pressure? Try giving someone advice to let go and start dating another person and come back and tell me about pressure)
I then was finding out that my advice was working a high percentage of the time. I can think of at least 4 who were dating when they lost their lover at one point, who are NOW married. All were only friends or work associates of mine who took my advice. I can't even count the married men and women who have had the guts to listen to me and follow what works despite their fear. My daughter ALWAYS comes to me. So far it has always worked. The guy has always come back to chase HER even though she was dying to chase HIM.. "NOPE HONEY.. That doesnt' work. Don't do it, stop calling him and immediately START DATING ANOTHER GUY" (yes this advice is to my own daughter)(who knows better what works on a man than her daddy?) "How do you know all of this stuff daddy? (after she calls me and tells me that he is now chasing her)"Experience honey, I had a lot of practice dating and with women. I found out what works on me as a man and what works on women"
Hope that helps. So, from my experience, from my observations, from my spreadsheets and from my talking to other successful men.. I would say that your chances by doing it your way don't look to good to me...
Your experience with helping others save relationships?
