As you go further into all of this, you will understand more that all of this really is for you.
DB, and standing, are two different things.
You can stand for your M, by standing for yourself. By healing yourself, by understanding what it is that you want and need from your life.
Detatching does notmean giving up on your M, it simply means removing yourself from the chaos and allowing you both time to heal.
DB is simply one tool for doing that. It is a great tool, especially when it is incorporated with learning what forgivness and unconditional love mean to you. While we all have ideas of what those things mean, they are different for each person.
You were raised Catholic. So was I. Personally, I found that I had to take what I was taught by the Church and expand my mind a bit. Step out of the box.
Several years ago, I came across a statement about marriage, that struck a major chord within me. I realized that it was exactly how I believed a R with another person should look like. It was very different than my M looked. I began to make my changes based on that. Based on what I wanted my M to look like. Or any R with another person for that matter. It spread over into my R with my S, other family members, and friends. Grit posted it on his thread recently. Maybe he will be so kind as to bring it over here.
You really are at the beginning of this.
It is ok to question yourself and to ask questions that hopefully will bring you answers that can help you in your journey.
None of us can tell you exactly what to do. You know you and your heart the best.
All of the answers you are looking for, are inside of you. Patience and faith will bring the answers to your awareness as you need them.
Have a good night.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
