The sooner you say these words to your wife, the better chance of her coming back to you........
Thanks Ready.
OIN.. I have done this stuff SUCCESSFULLY for over twenty years... This is NOT my first time around the block with a situation like yours. Matter of fact, I have seen your type of situation thousands of times.... I always run into the same things with men in your situation. Same excuses. Same reasoning. Same responses..
The ones who wise up and listen and apply the principles of what works to bring a woman back around TOWARD you have the best chance to get her back. The thing that they almost all say later is "why didn't I wake up sooner and let go".... They feel better about themselves. It isn't good for men to try to win a woman back. It is LOWERING your self esteem. She senses that you are TRYING too hard. (remember my "I'm still shakin it boss" comment)(that is how YOU are coming across to HER now) Women respect a man who does the things you are doing if he does them out of strength. They don't respect or love a man who does them out of loss of her love.That is JUST the way it is and just the way it works. If what you were doing was what worked for men, then I would be the first to tell you to keep doing it. If begging worked, then I would tell you to beg. However, in my twenty some years, I have rarely seen the things you are doing work.
Now. This doesn't mean that you are rude, mean, or treat her badly. What is means is that you do what you did tonight regarding the food issue. NOTHING. You don't reach out to her. You don't rescue her. You can be cordial. You should be cordial. What she HAS to see and FEEL (NOTICE the word FEEL) that you have given up trying to save the relationship. "I give, you win.. I will NOT try anymore. I am done too."
FINALLY she will FEEL that you heard her. The pressure is finally off of YOU and is now on her. Does she really mean what she has been saying? What if YOU are now done? YOu are finally giving her the chance to think those thoughts. Just let her see and feel that you have given up. You won't be mean, but you won't be making ANY effort TOWARD her.. You are going into your own little world. You HAVE TO give her the speech I told you to give her. You will THEN find out if the relationship will be able to be saved. SHE will have to bring up a talk or it is over. It is now really up to her. Is she really willing to risk that? I don't know. No guarantees. Stop torturing yourself. You HAVE tried. She has rejected your effort. (no surprise to me, they almost always reject your efforts in these situations.) It is only when you let her go and leave her alone and give up that she may turn around. If she is truly done, then so be it. Nothing you could have done anyway. She is already telling you she is done, so what more can she tell you? What? That she is STILL done? What? That you are never going to change? No more TRYING. It isn't worth it and it does NOT work.
Believe it or not.. SOMETIMES the BEST thing for a relationship to heal is TIME APART.... "
Absence is to love as wind is to fire.. It blows out the weak and kindles the strong"......
