SSM is a glaring signal that a marriage is not succeeding.
I wouldn't mind thinking of it that way -- that a marriage is a failure if it doesn't include sex. Simple as black and white, good marriage or bad marriage, one or the or the other. But it's not that simple.
I'm in this marriage because I've chosen to stay in it, not because I'm some pitiful victim frozen with fear and unable to act.
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That would be to completely ignore the message her inability to have sex is actually sending: "Something is seriously wrong in my life and I'm in pain."
Though I might agree with that statement, how do you reconcile it with the fact that some people live single, or with a partner who also wants no sex, and NOBODY would say such a person is in serious pain and has something wrong with their life. So which is it? Is it just the incompatibility that's the problem, or is any person not wanting sex a person who has something seriously wrong in their life and is living in pain?
