For every hour your spouse puts into the escapism you have to put an hour into attacking it
If she's been bulding up fantasies of running away with this guy and put 400 hours of work into it you will likley have 400 hours of work to UNDO it...
She's been building up a fantasy in her head, you are trying to knock it down... it takes time and work... one hit on the wall is rarely enough to knock it down...
