QS, whomever told you exposure was a one shot deal mislead you.
Exposure is an ongonig activity that you keep on top of until your spouse has ended the affair...
As is the monitoring... You are dealing with an addict, that means you will be repeating things... alot... Addicts don't take things the first time through.. you have to do it again and again and again to beat the addiction out of their system...
It's not a one shot deal.. Never was
Not to emntion your spouse will be running damage control against your exposure efforts, whcih means there's a follow up.. you experienced this with her parents
a. You exposed b. She ran damage control c. You exposed her damage control as more lies d. She lies further e. You expose to her parents that she's lying to them
It is an ongoing activity... its nto something you do once and then dont have to do again.. you can try exposing without any follow ups, but it's not very effective...
Truth in a marriage is much like running a newspaper, you have to constantly be pursuing the truth and ensuring it gets out to the community and that lies are exposed... until the lies END
