But understand this... exposure isnt' done because you want to do it... I advocate doing what needs done to get the family as a whole to a healthier place... I don't advocate more than I think is needed...
With infidelity given the painful circumstances, the explicit and very real threat to the marriage (I've never seen anyone run off to marry a magazine cover), tougher measures are endorsed...
They aren't pleasant... And believe me if keeping the whole mess secret could be done while saving a marriage from infidelity I say go for it... but Experience on this forum alone shoudl show you how addictive infidelity is and how hard to break its hold on the WS...
I reccomend a sledge hammer when its needed... And with infidelity you usually have to bring out the biggest hammers you have...
I would endorse the same for alcohol abuse as well in most cases... and I wish to god when I was a kid someone had exposed my mother and her family and gotten to her... To this day I refuse to drink a single drop of alcohol
