Well I know when I was dealing with exposure that it seemed very unfair to hang me out for everyone to know what I'd been doing.....but nobody has to know about my H's dirty little secrets? That part is to stay private? There's not a third party involved?
Somehow it just didn't seem quite balanced in all fairness. I do see what you are saying....and I'm not fighting it.....but it is a hard pill to swallow when you know people have been informed about "you" but brother would they be shocked to know what dear old dad was doing!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
