Heartbroken and needing help!

[irishblessings]

Thanks for the clarification. I have not had an angry encounter with H in 10 days. I have seen him a few times and have been pleasant. Even yesterday, when I talked to him about boundaries that would have to be set if he were to come home - it wasn't confrontational. I was a bit more emotional than I would have wanted to be - but didn't lose it completely.

I am still thinking about this "going dark" thing. On the one hand I think it would be helpful for me - breathing room. On the other hand, circumstances like the upcoming weekend when Ds are in from out of town make it difficult. They feel like they have limited time and don't want to be split. I understand their feelings - I went through the same thing with my parents' late in in life divorce. However, the reality is we really are not a "family" right now / at least that's how I look at it. H is in the mindset that he hasn't made any decisions yet - but as he told S - it is "pretty possible" we are going to get divorced. It's day 18 of the separation / am I right that this is still in its infancy? Even though he's short on money - he still seems pretty happy and excited about his newfound freedom - so I know this is a long haul. Am I right that I need to be flexible with a lot of these issues and not draw any hard lines right now?

I hope I am not driving you all too crazy with these ramblings! I am so grateful for your input!