The demonizes the OM/OW and idealizes the Spouse...
It takes two to tango. If you believe that the Souse did nothing wrong at all then...you are going to have some massive problems if they come back.
Do not get me wrong demonizing the OW/OM is all fine and good.
I recently had this same debate with Allen A, over on the Infidelity board (he said it was "90/10" the fault of the predator, with 10% being the fault of the cheating spouse). I called "bullchit" and said the MOST I could go was 60/40.
I'm with Jack on this one. Takes two to do the dirty dance, and really, oftentimes the OP is SINGLE, so you could make the argument that the cheating, MARRIED person is more culpable.
