The co-workers WH complained to about our marriage, headed by OW.
Originally Posted By: Allen A
The thing SR, you put 1000 bucks down on Larry, going to us for advice right now is contaminating that.. if Larry says he can end this thing in x amount of time and you put that money down you need to avoid contaminating his program with advice from here...
If you decide to end the program with him and take a new approach later then that's a whole other business, but coming to us for advice is going to potentially contaminate a different approach from L
There's no point in putting money down in a program and then contaminating it...
Contaminating isn't exactly the right word. Ancillary advice is more accurate.
Larry advocates SOME methods similar to MWD, like the 180, but he doesn't believe exposure works for everyone. He also doesn't refer to an affair or MLC "fog" - he calls it So-and-so's "Freddy" (like Freddy Kruger), the evil that resides in all of us (think cartoon angel and devil on your shoulder - Freddy's the devil), and he feels it comes on strong at various stressful times as a result of childhood trauma and/or family relationship patterns.
I ask questions and look for feedback in this forum because I don't have access to Larry 24/7 and I like to vent, make friends, and talk to others. Sometimes the advice aligns with Larry's, sometimes it doesn't. I take it or don't based on what I've learned, kind of like eating the cauliflower and avoiding the bread on a buffet table if I'm on a diet.
Did Larry STOP my divorce in 4 weeks? I don't know. He certainly ARRESTED it in 4 weeks, because WH is DEFINITELY rethinking his options right now as a result of the things I learned and have implemented with Larry.
I understand things SO much better than I did before, and I know this affair wasn't my fault. Yes, I made it easier by ignoring my husband in favor of the kids, and I gave him ample opportunity by allowing him as much time as he wanted at work, but given the 150+ history of EVERY man in WH's ancestry abandoning his family by age 50 (usually in favor of an OW), the odds were stacked against me. That program for dealing with mid-life stress in WH's family was written long before I happened on the scene.
So...I appreciate everyone's input above and beyond what I've learned from Larry.
Do I feel like I wasted $1000? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Larry's course is worth 10X the amount I paid for it because I've learned more and have had more positive response from my husband in the last two weeks than in the last two years. I just wish I had found it sooner...
