Future, his XW is not playing games. She has moved on
Now you're doing the mind reading Gnosis! We don't know what your W is thinking inside v1olin, but trying to figure it out will keep you trapped in a miserable place. She RESPONDED to a flirty comment from you. That's waaaay too easy, and therefore means little. Not until your W truly feels your loss will she know how much, or how little, you mean to her. Stop the flirty comments, and go back to a civil, business only R.