thanks for the advice. it sounds like an anger issue.
my wife isn't opened -minded; she thinks she is but she really isn't. i'm sure she has some deep-seeded issue with me that i thought was resolved years ago--like i still have for her.
i have a whole summer to either confront her once again or to finally take the inititative to do things on my own.
odds are i will be doing things on my own: there really isn't anything to discuss anymore with her.