I know kat but I am making progress. It took three texts, a missed call, and a voicemail before I replied at all. And all I said was what's up. Then when he said "never mind" I left it at that and didn't try to coax him into sharing.
So I am a little better! He is going to have to get used to it.
You're absolutely right - that is definite progress in the right direction. I know first hand how hard it is to change how you have been dealing with a dysfunctional person after catering to their wishes for so many years. Good work BBJ - keep it up, he'll get the picture.
It took three texts, a missed call, and a voicemail before I replied at all. And all I said was what's up. Then when he said "never mind" I left it at that and didn't try to coax him into sharing.