The DB techniques are for me. I use them with H and will use them the rest of my life in situations of all kinds. These tools allow me to step back and really listen (with more than my ears) to what others are saying.
I have also learned to really look at my actions and what they say.
Does it work better if you are still living together? It didn't for me. Why? I'm sure it was b/c I wasn't using them as well, and H was chomping at the bit to get out. I've been seperated 2+ years and we are getting along better now. What I don't know, is whether my H is MLC or not. I never did. What I do know, is that I have the ability to make this better, or not, and using these tools does that for me.
