Jack and Sleeper, You guys are great. I have gained much from all of you and it helps me get through the day. I have 3 boys 7, 9 and 12 and the C says she is over halfway on the MLC. Meanwhile I just got the report from one of my inside coworkers that My W and the OM were spotted by one of her coworkers in a local supermarket parking lot being more than just friends, embracing, kissing etc.I am one month out from the D day and it has been extremely hard for me of course since I take care of everything now at home while she leaves and needs her space. The Doc calls OM a fantasy and makes lite of it but still it stings badly. I know her childhood was neglect by her father but it still is tough to just let it go and let God. Everyone I have confided with says I have become stronger and will make it through. I keep hearing the "Things will be much better for you after this is over" line from friends but the faith in this gets shaky with me. You guys show so much strength in this I don't know how you do it. My W is heading exactly for sleepers scenario and his W sounds just like mine. It is scary to look at the future like Ebeneezer Scrooge when I read the posts. My boys will have to suffer through this when she has her 50% custody and it will be excruciating for me. I love my boys more than anything in this world and holding out for the Alien to return from the mothership has got me screaming inside. Doc says she will come your way and then pull back. Yup, experienced this lately but when the mothership activates the tractor beam it just seems hopeless. I am DBing at all times and it has paid off but as the D day creeps closer, It just doesn't seem fast enough. As far as I can tell, no rock bottom has been hit so I am going to have to fasten my seatbelt. I hate having to rely on friends to hear my sitch but they have been awesome for me to get some kind of sanity in my head. I always thank them so they know that I really do appreciate listening to the unbelievable stuff about someone they once knew as my W. They are all baffled too. They all envied our marriage before the bomb was dropped. It sure was a blissful marriage for me and my W bragged about me being a good father/husband to everyone she met. Thanks for letting me vent here.
