So the ball is rolling on working on the separation agreement. H agreed to 1. do coparenting plan before financial stuff 2. try out the psychologist who I really liked
It was weird, he seemed to be seeking my guidance/input. I don't know if that's just following the pattern of our M, or if he's going out of his way to be cooperative with me to avoid nastiness.
I am optimistic that he will have a good impression of the psychologist.
Well, that's good to hear, I guess. I don't know what to say as to why he's being cooperative- it could be just that he perceives you as not openly fighting the D, and sad as that is, it makes him calm down and be more reasonable.
Originally Posted By: flowmom
I've been emotional in the last week since H first brought out sorting out the financials. I'm mostly feeling a sense of acceptance, but I still have some desperate thoughts of wanting to DO something to prevent the D outcome.
Yes, it goes in waves, doesn't it. It did seem like over the past month or so you had said you "accepted" the outcome, but just b/c you feel like that one day or even put it in writing doesn't mean you can't or won't feel differently later. It seems like it's also easier to feel "accepting" when there's not much concrete legal activity going on/topics being brought up. But the feelings get stirred up when these new things come up.
I think it's totally natural to feel a last "I want to DO something" and only you can decide whether or not to do it and what it would look like. Are you still seeing IC and could you maybe discuss this?
I'm glad you were able to have a sane discussion with him about V, but totally understand how awful and uncomfortable that must've been- I can't even imagine. Do you believe him that there is no R there?
More ((((((hugs))))))) to you
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
