THe reason why waywards are sad is because they are giving up on their marriage...
To their mind the marriage isn't meeting their needs and in their head they have exhausted all useful avenues of repair.. so they are resignign themselves to a failed marriage slowly, in thier MIND... this happens gradually over the course of time... hopelessness manifests itself as sighing, frowns, pessimistic statements, negative commentary, cyncism, and general distance and uncooperative approaches to living in the marital home...
Its not you, its his choices, his respnose to his dissatisfactionw the marriage
It may not "be me" but it sure makes ME feel like crap! lol However, I know I can do nothing about it other than to keep focusing on myself.
Just read my parents' card to H for his birthday. Wow...if that doesn't make him feel a bit bad, nothing will. The card was "To our son". They both wrote very personal notes to him about how proud they are of him - and what a great man and father he is... if they only knew. My dad's note is especially poignant because H has never had a dad in his life really, that treated him well yet my dad has always considered him a son and not just SIL. H has a lot of respect for my dad, so, I hope reading all of that (from a man who does not share his feelings much) will get to him a little! Probably not so much my mom as she's kind of a pain that we all endure - even though she's good-hearted.
