BF did that once but it was right at the beginning of piecing. When I found out I blew a gasket and told him I was finished because he didn't understand the very simple concept of NO contact. Obviously I did end up giving him another chance but I was this close to closing the door forever and told him if it ever happened again then I was done, end of story.
Puppy told me at the start of piecing that you have to decide for yourself how many times you're going to give the WAS to slip up. That way when they do (not if) you'r not totally thrown by it. Now is the time to think about how much leeway you're willing to give H.
Unfortunately he's done a lot of damage because this is coming a long time after you started piecing so now you're back at square one which is about 20 steps back. And on top of that he's not doing the work necessary to heal properly.
Whatever you decide to do, know that this is an important juncture and your actions will set the tone for your R going forward whether that's as a married couple or single coparents.
Hugs!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
