<<I mentioned it to Dan while I was gone (I know, not kid-related so I shouldn't have)...I just casually mentioned that a neighbor said they had a friend wind up paying $4500 bc of roots in the line...>>
BBJ, don't you have anybody else you can call for this type of stuff? Men love to feel usefull and you are feeding him.....
<<I mentioned it to Dan while I was gone (I know, not kid-related so I shouldn't have)...I just casually mentioned that a neighbor said they had a friend wind up paying $4500 bc of roots in the line...>>
BBJ, don't you have anybody else you can call for this type of stuff? Men love to feel usefull and you are feeding him.....
Why in the hell would he possibly want to be useful to me when he is so DONE with me as he said, he can't stand to be around me, yada yada yada?
Anyway I just told the city to use their contractor because I would not have the first clue whom to hire. They said I could use the company they suggested (a local construction co.) or they could find the problem and then I could hire someone to fix it but it would have to be up to their codes/standards. So, I said have your preferred guys do it. They are done, no bill yet, but I do have a nicely shredded chunk of lawn. And my grass was so thick, green, and weed-free. Time to call landscaping crew back I guess.
Oh and as for men feeling useful, I have been texting my friend/co-worker R about buying a new bike. He rides his bike regularly, does RAGBRAI (the bike ride across the state of Iowa, etc.). He made fun of me on FB for having a 15 yr old Roadmaster....so I have been pumping his brain for suggestions on what bike I should get.
Ugh....so I blew off/ignored the two texts from 8 this morning about my yard...
Now he just texted again, "Tell Nathan and Sydney dad says thanks for the ear infection".
Really? I don't know the purpose of that. What, does he want them to feel guilty for making their dad sick? (Btw Dan is the first one to tell you that ear infections are not contagious) Either he wants to make them feel bad, or he wants them to know he is sick now, or he wants me to know...
If I answered at all I would say, "Yeah, no, not going to make them feel bad bc you are sick" but I don't think I will answer at all.
And now, he is calling me. Really? I am getting ready for class so I didn't answer home phone now he just called my cell...well sorry I am unavailable.
Voicemail says "Hey give me a call..." well I hear nothing urgent there.
I didn't call him but after an hour I sent a simple "In class what is up". He replied back immediately "Never mind". Gee, pout much?? I left it alone..........perhaps he is annoyed that I am not responding to his texts or calls. Well, too bad. Game changed and he will figure it out.
I don't think you should have replied to the one you did. If he was saying something regarding the kids that needed dealt with great, but he didn't. Was he always this controlling and "needy"?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm going to bet yes, yes he was. Now he doesn't have complete access to a sympathetic ear taking care of him and he's trying desperately to keep that connection.
That man has BIG issues BBJ
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I know kat but I am making progress. It took three texts, a missed call, and a voicemail before I replied at all. And all I said was what's up. Then when he said "never mind" I left it at that and didn't try to coax him into sharing.
So I am a little better! He is going to have to get used to it.
I know kat but I am making progress. It took three texts, a missed call, and a voicemail before I replied at all. And all I said was what's up. Then when he said "never mind" I left it at that and didn't try to coax him into sharing.
So I am a little better! He is going to have to get used to it.
You're absolutely right - that is definite progress in the right direction. I know first hand how hard it is to change how you have been dealing with a dysfunctional person after catering to their wishes for so many years. Good work BBJ - keep it up, he'll get the picture.
Time to call landscaping crew back I guess. 
It took three texts, a missed call, and a voicemail before I replied at all. And all I said was what's up. Then when he said "never mind" I left it at that and didn't try to coax him into sharing.