Just got off my call with Larry - really, REALLY good stuff! I'm SO glad I took this course!
Basically, my WH's problem right now is this:
He (and his committee, most likely) was TOTALLY convinced it's time to go, I'll never change, he can't make it work, it's completely hopeless, etc. He was gonna serve his six months of in-house separation, move out, file, and call it a marriage.
The problem is, between the 180 and Larry's course, I HAVE changed - and things are anything BUT hopeless. I'm happier and more confident than I've been in YEARS! The kids are happier. The whole household is less stressed. He can feel it in the air.
It doesn't matter WHAT he says or does - all he gets from me is positive feedback. He can stay out late, miss dinner, come and go as he pleases - just like he's a single guy. I won't make a peep. I also won't typically spend more than 5 minutes in the same room as him.
He took FULL advantage of it for 6-7 weeks. But now he's beginning to stop and question things. Why won't I get mad? Why is there no drama? Why don't I seem to even care about him any more? He has NO idea what to make of it! (All by design, of course.)
So we've got some more roller coaster time ahead as he tries to bait the nasty wife some more so he can justify an exit. Eventually, if all goes according to plan, he'll eventually snap out of it and realize that I'm "the better princess" (as Jack Three Beans calls it) and ditch the dumb bell in distress he tried to save (OW).
Meanwhile, Larry agrees with you NM & WN - keep my mouth shut. It's not the right time. WH will read something negative into it to fit his agenda.
Finally! I did SOMETHING right out of instinct! Lol!
So after our pleasant evening last night, WH asked me if I'd like to a go to a colleague's house for 4th of July. It's the first time since March he's asked me to do ANYTHING with someone from his work, so I was surprised.
