I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[ClingingToHope]

Down the road I really, really worry about how OWs and OMs will play out. My parents divorced. My dad didn't remarry until I was in college. He had a steady girlfriend for a long time, but I never stayed over so she was never in a position of authority.

My mom had two husbands and two live-in boyfriends the final 20 years of her life. The first one tried to do discipline, but that didn't work and we didn't get along. He didn't last long. The second husband left all of the stuff to my mom. I do remember arguing with him a few times. But I didn't really listen to him.

That was the same thing with the last guy as well.

The class I took suggested talking on the phone twice a week over what's going on. I'm not ready for that yet. I don't even want to hear her voice right now.

I hope by next year to be able to do that. I'm not sure what the trigger for me will be. I may never be able to talk to her, instead just sending email updates.

I expect to eventually remarry and I wonder how I'd handle her children or how my children would handle a brother or sister. Life is going to get so much more complicated.