Do I want our marriage to work, Yes. DO I think it is going to work, No. I don't want to push my W out the door nor do I want her to feel as if I do not want out marriage to work.
I just MYLU's sitch. The dynamics surrounding the sitch are not the same that surround mine.
Gucci's advice -- and the principles behind it -- are NEAR-UNIVERSAL, OIN, and they are based upon years and years of studying human interpersonal dynamics and what WORKS, esp. when there is infidelity involved.
You're listening not ONE WHIT. As C.G. said, your entire conversation with your wife is just you trying to convince her that her feelings are "wrong."
Feelings can't BE wrong, OIN -- they are what they are. It is your own blind stubbornness to that, despite everyone's best advice they've given you, that is "pushingyour wife out the door." Gucci's approach would actually be the OPPOSITE; you are giving her your validation, and her own freedom, if that's what she wants.
