QS, the other thing you may want to consider here, and puppy can correct me if I am wrong, but you may want to consider exposing her plans to her parents... There is a RISK factor here, your wife's health, her safety, this guy clearly isn't on the up and up and I can't imagine parents would be thrilled at the idea of her planning to meet up with some creep that may just give her a disease or worse...
Parents DO want to protect their children from creeps usually... And anyone willing to sneak around like that and plan a meeting with a married woman specifically for sex is a major sleaze
If QS' intel is as "rock-solid" as he says, I'm not opposed to this.
