I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Ok I just realized something:
I will be going to the custody class next week. I bet I can ask my questions to "the experts" and get their take, too. NOW just because I consult other people doesn't mean I follow what they say, lol! I like to have a variety of sources and if most line up, and it feels right to me (not what I WANT but what is right) then I usually do it.

WN I do know child development but more like from age 4+. Babies have always been a mystery to me! I was scared of this part of motherhood and the teenage part!

And what if I do something completely opposite of stbxh? Then what will S do or think?

But I must remember that stbxh and I did agree on most things about child rearing.

lol- I totally do not want OW's advice!! I have always wondered if it is her influence on stbxh when he has described doing certain things. I think I may even bring it up to him at some point. But thinking of it like this will help deter me from asking him!

And yes....believe me I am feeling free to do or say whatever I want at this point (bar from making things worse for S) and that means a positive side effect will be pissing off OW!!!!!