hm is right... It so depends on the circumstances. My H is well, Extremely HD. Although I do not want sex every day, I mostly do to make him happy.
Don't get me wrong, its always great, but his track record of porn,etc has put a HUGE damper on everything. Sometimes I get so depressed about it, BECAUSE he is NOT sex starved why he still feels the need to look at porn, this is the troublesome part.
My H can be cruel at times and just completely selfish and yes if my mind is not in it, no I don't want to do it.
Well, just so I'm not misunderstood, it sounds to me like you're fulfilling your sexual obligation beyond the call of duty!
Now, about your husband. If his extreme HD-ness is similar to mine, I would suggest to him that he should try to redirect more of his erotic energy towards you. But since this message is going to you, I would suggest that you try to direct his erotic energy towards you by showing a positive interest. His interest in porn isn't necessarily a negative comment about you. I'm not saying you should accept the porn, rather focus on how great it is that he has a strong erotic interest, and tell him you'd love to have that strong erotic interest involve you. I'm just guessing here, but if he's open to that, he might be holding back only because you may be very disapproving of his interest in porn, and he's interpreting that incorrectly.
Perhaps your husband is dealing with a bit of the "madonna-whore" syndrome where he likes the "nasty" aspect of porn, and puts you on a pedestal as mother and pure wife?
Frankly, I don't understand why guys don't talk more with their wives about things like this. God knows I've tried many times to talk to my wife about stuff like this. I guess the people who end up on this forum are mostly those who want to talk things through in their marriages, but have spouses who don't want to talk, or sometimes simply can't.
