it was the entitlement that he expressed that was the most resentment-provoking. and believe me, I tried, but my body simply would not function, and then he'd become angry. which, of course, was less than helpful. it just became a death spiral which reinforced the one-sidedness of the relationship, and one shoulder rub or doing the dishes was supposed to make up for years of an environment in which I felt I didn't matter except to provide for his needs without having any of my own.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012