Hello to all on those on the ‘We’re Seperated’. At the bottom of this are the threads prior to here. I started in ‘Infidelity’ cause it fit the start of my problems, co-posted there and MLC board, cause she’s got that going on also, and now I find myself in need of this boards knowledge base.
In a nut shell up til now: We were separated 5 years ago with an 2 EA’s going on, got it all back together. March 8, OM first TM, April 2, OM 1st cell call, 1st week of may, first face to face secret meeting, mid may first time she spent the night away. Around this time I confirmed PA and confronted wife and exposed to family and friends as advised on Infidelity board(it is hurting their relationship, just not enough yet). The OM is one of the guys she had EA with 5 years ago, had little to no contact for 4.5 years.
Hindsight is 20/20, I have backslid a bit, recession caused backslide of joint debt. MLC – many causes and symptoms.
So here I am on the board I spent 6 months on 5 years ago. Why I’m here is that tomorrow she officially will be moving out. The house that she has rented is 85 paces from my front door to hers, for the DD’s sake, so as to disrupt their routines as little as possible. Two good things I see, first it is a 12 month lease, and second, OM lives over 1 hour away, so my fear of her moving out of school district is avoided, and maybe their relationship has a few chinks in it’s armor.
What am I doing you may ask. I’ve been refreshing my knowledge of DR, and taking crash course in PA destruction, and MLC info. I’ve got a couple 180’s working. I’ve fallen away from my faith over the last 20 years, and am enjoying getting reacquainted with church, and I’ve started working out again, which really helped 5 years ago. I was burying myself in work and a video game to forget about the bills etc, and have stopped doing both also.
We told DD’s 14 and 8 last night about the separation, and as I suspected, DD14 already knew, and actually had clothes in the other house, but D8 was crushed, and is still in shock. They are actually excited because they each get a new room . W unfortunately has been making a 'buddy' out of D14, instead of being a parent, and actually let OM meet her(as a friend I'm sure)
I look forward to the insight of all of you, because I have forgotten how badly the separation effects all, as well as the extra emotions I experience with my DD’s getting thrown into our M problems.
from my fortune cookie,,,,,,"Adversity is the test for strong men" Me -44 WAW - 43 D14 D8 EA/PA mid May,2010 WAW moved out- 07/01/10 WAW filed 07/01/10
. W unfortunately has been making a 'buddy' out of D14, instead of being a parent, and actually let OM meet her(as a friend I'm sure) 
