Possible EA - Need Advice

[newmama]

I think if my H comes back because I exposed at his work, he's not going to be the man I want anyways. Exposing at work is really another attempt for me to control a situation that I think I just need to accept the situation as uncontrollable.

How to quit an addiction:
1)must be removed from access to the substance
2) will go through withdrawal
3)must stay away from the substance no matter what
4)after detox, you will no longer be physically addicted, but will have "triggers"
5)must never go back to the substance again

OK this is super simple explanation of how to quit addiction, but here is why I am posting it. AT FIRST your H may not be coming back to you "for the right reasons" BUT AS LONG AS HE STOPS COMMUNICATING WITH OW, he WILL lose his attraction/interest for her, and it you will see him thankful he is with his family.

They say it takes awhile because they have to go through withdrawal from the OP.


My friend whose story I referred to previously said a month after her H ended his A, he was completely over her,disgusted with himself, and was sooo relieved he didn't give up his family.

About exposing at work. Is the goal for HR to step in and split the 2 up? Or is the goal for people to know and then make the A not a secret, and cause "social pressure" because it is unacceptable? Or both?


Marriagebuilders vets are HIGH EXPOSURE and say who cares if the spouse loses their $200,000 annual income, a marriage is way more valuable.

Melody, again, HOW COME you haven't exposed to OW's bf yet? Is it because you don't want OW to have more access to your H? How come OW hasn't left her BF if she is so crazy about your H? And think of this benefit- OW's BF may expose for you!