WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

Need some advice from Puppy, Coach, Greek, Sandi2, CityGirl or anyone with an opinion. The more the merrier.

XW and I have been sending e-mails back and forth taking care of little odds and ends regarding insurance, banking and computer files and such and I asked within one of my e-mails for a copy of the letter she wrote to me in April of 09 that started this whole thing. She had printed it out and gave it to me to read at the time and I possibly shredded it afterward so the kids wouldn't come across it. I had mentioned it to her several times over the past 14+ months but I finally put it in an e-mail.

"Could you also send me a copy of the document/letter you wrote to me last April? Hopefully you still have it on your laptop. Thanks"

And this is the reply I received:

"I did find the letter. When I reread it, I wondered why you would want it. Much happened and changed since it's writing and I wonder if it is really helpful to go back to that specific time."

This has really bothered me for some reason. Is this a boundary or a N.U.T. that I should challenge or should I just let it go?

I keep thinking what Coach says about these things being "gifts" that help us understand where our spouses are coming from. Granted, she may have already been well into her first EA when she wrote this so it may not help.

I just think that she can be curious why I want it and she can express her concern over giving it to me but I don't feel she has the right to NOT give it to me. It is a letter she wrote to me and is possibly the last substantive thing she wrote to me in the past 14+ months.

So let it go or send her a second request addressing my wishes and how should I word that?

Thanks everyone!