Last entanglement in Paris

[sleeper]

...it always semed like you bent over backwards for her for little more than the possibility that she smiles.

Yes I did. I was often over accomodating.

Why? I was not functioning for several years before we separated. A counselor says it was PTSD and from what I've read I must agree. I was acting out of guilt. The shock of "the bomb" and getting on meds (that had not been identified for treatment of PTSD until just prior to bomb) allowed me to reflect on what I had put her through for the previous 4 years. I felt responsible to a large degree.

The same counselor described what happened to our marriage as "the perfect storm". Our child sexually assaulted, a two-year trial of the perpetrator, I develop PTSD, our boookeeper takes advantage of the distraction to steal us blind, X's closest relative dies, another relative takes action and successfully denies her inheritance(2nd time that's happened to her), X goes into MLC, a self-centered Jackass in hot pursuit. Our marriage never stood a chance.

Did I do the right thing? Would anything have been different had I made other choices? I seriously doubt it. I could have fought her harder on the financials but there would have been no guarantee of the outcome. I believe worse as she has been ripped off more than once and was in a hyper-defensive mode.

Everyone must make their own choices as to how to respond. We must do what is right for us personally.

When all is said and done we are gonna do what we are gonna do.

"Got do"?