"When you find yourself in a hole first thing to do is stop digging."
Stop feeding your snakes.
You are co-dependent on your H for your self-worth. You have a pessimistic style. You want someone else to be responsible for your happiness. It sucks to be you right now.
You really want to change the thought process? Change your thinking. Stop letting other people define who you are in your mind. Stop letting your feelings override facts. Acknowledge your faults, work on what needs to be worked and be OK with who you are. You can't give away what you don't have so if you don't love yourself you won't have love to give away.
When you write a program and it doesn't work what do you do? Sometimes the code you have in your mind is dysfunctional and needs to be re-written. You keep running the same program and expect different results = insanity.
You get called a "gold digger" and it spins you up. Run the program - Am I a gold digger? Yes or No. Answer no. Next question. The answer isn't "no but why would .........." Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
"Know thyself." Do the work here to really learn about who you are. What do you believe and why? What is your passion? What will help you self-actualize?
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this is what coach says is 'snakes on my brain'.
Yes. Your fears, doubts, limiting thoughts. Snakes keep you stuck. What triggers them and how do you quiet them?
Read Dr Suess "Oh the Places You Will Go!"
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
