While the story does demonize OW, it also shows how messed up they are too. Her evilness does not detract from H's responsibility. Maybe he started out as a sucker, he allowed it to continue. I choose to not give any time/energy to OW, whether it is to find forgiveness or compassion, or hate.
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So...how can we get the OW to be the bitch witch in this little drama?
I am confident, since she is so messed up, she will be her own undoing. Her true colors will come out, especially if I am not reacting to the games. Ya know how after a few years the sexy (uncomfortable) nighties find their way to the back of the closet in favor of the warm flannel? Her flannel will come out. The act cannot be maintained for long. Be patient, more patient than her.
That is not to say I do not plant seeds when the opportunity arises. "You seem like a lost soul" "I don't think I have ever seen you so unhappy.?" I had the best opportunity back in April when I had drinks w/H. SHe found out and apparently threw a fit which H turned on me. He was mad I had blabbed about it and it got back to her. That didn't happen! So, I laid out possibilities like she must have followed you, she was just fishing for info, she hacked our email. I, of course never heard what happened but he started expressing concern to me about his email being messed up. Hmmmm.
So, wait for it.... anything you say or do about her will seem vindictive.
My kids speak up tho too. DS13 told me he saw a H2O blaster when they were in Walgreens. The 2 was really small so it looked like HO blaster and DS pointed it out To H. "hey Dad, can I use this on your girlfriend?" H said, "How would like me to talk like that about your girlfriend?" without missing a beat, DS says "my girlfriend didn't break up our family and make you leave me."
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
