What is it that you all would consider 'success'? What would need to happen or be said for it to be successful or progress?

Up till the 25th of the month when I looked back at my sitch where it was when it all started and how far I have come I would say I made progress. Our interactions were better. W actually wanted to be around me/do things with me where as before she wanted nothing to do with me.

Yes, at this point W still did not commit to working on our marriage and she had poor communication at times. However W had decided to stay in our home, not something she expressed verbally but through her actions.

It is said in the DR book that it will take a lot of patients and for every year things were bad in a R it would equate to 1 month of DB. We are on month 6 of our sitch, 5 months DB, 4 months of steady DB. In this time there were two instances where I had to bust an EA with same OM, so that it self is a major set back. So in total we're talking 2 1/2 months of DB without the interference of OM. Through all this I have made strides with W.

In the past 2 weeks, I had tried a new approach,maybe I did not apply the theory of this approach the best I could but I gave it a try anyway. Calling W out when she used sounds to communicate with me rather than words (W took it as me being controlling and governing her words).

I guess what I want to know is, what is your measurement for success and why do you think it could be obtained in such a short period of time?

M: 27, W: 25
Together since: 01/31/00
M: 10/4/09 (8 Months)
ILBNILWY: 01/24/10
EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted).
Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10
Retrouvaille: 09/10/10