I agree with this:
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The rest of your conversation probably shouldn't have continued. You should have replied "OK, then I guess I have my answer. I have a lot of thinking to do," and turned and walked away and completely DROPPED THE ROPE from that point forward.


But once you continued and your wife offered up this then should have really listened and asked

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She said that won't be an issue it's all the other stuff she is worried about.


"What is all the other stuff you are worried about?"

Then listened (eye contact, affirming her feelings, validating her thoughts, no defending on your part) and make sure you know what the "other stuff" is. This is your 180 list, your goals, and what makes her feel loved, seen, heard and appreciated. You not addressing the other stuff is what causes her anger. Handle the other stuff and she feels emotionally connected. She's attracted to you. She feels safe with you as a mate. You are leading.

Can you handle the "other stuff"? Because she will test you on it.


M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.