Husband's behavior is confusing

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Okay Puppy, I took your advice and did some serious snooping that I'm not proud of, but at least now I know. I spied on him while he was texting her two nights ago and again last night. Didn't get anything definitive the first night, but last night they talked about how they want to be together forever, how she wishes she could crawl through the computer and be with him and then he signed off "I love you, miss you, want you and need you" and he typed it so quickly it is obviously something he writes to her often.

Having said that, we have had sex 3 times in the past 4 nights, he spoons with me all night long, kisses me hello and good-bye etc.

So what is the plan now? I am not sure if the relationship has actually moved to a physical level or not. Do I keep up surveillance until I know if it is a PA or not? How do I confront him, what do I say especially because he has already filed for divorce and obviously isn't committed to the marriage.

Thanks you in advance for ANYONE's help!

waterbur

Waterbur ~~~~
Sister to sister: Cut him off. No more sex. You are worth way, way, way more than that! He is COURTING another woman, at the very least, and "doing" you. I'm sorry, my friend, to be so blunt - but if we are delicate about these things, you might miss the point. Next time he .... spoons.... give him a firm elbow so that he gets your message. If he asks what's up, tell him, "I don't want you right now."

You are not Plan B!

And NEVER have sex with someone who is suing you!


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