Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[xin]

Journaling:

Went to our first, and probably last, counselling session today.
It was quite disappointing. The counsellor said we are on different pages and we need to learn to come to terms with that. And when H said he doesn't think there's anything to salvage from our M, she didn't say anything else. I thought she missed many opportunities to say something constructive, like when H spoke about his "relationship" with OW who is married. Doesn't that say something is mentally wrong with my H?!

And another sign of my H's mental issue - when counsellor said we should try not to hurt each other further, H turned to me and said "we don't do that". I said "well, you having an affair hurts." Counsellor said nothing. I suppose it's not fair to expect her to take side.

Will be seeing counsellor next week on my own. Can't wait to hear what she would say.